Put another way: a 45 year-old woman shouldn't have a harder time finding a date than a 20 year-old, because the female-to-male ratios at those ages are equal (roughly 11:9).
Of course, we all know that 45 year-olds do have a much harder time, because the male fixation on youth distorts the dating pool.
I, on the other hand, can make my claim by looking at a woman's stated preferences: This is a nationwide "age progression" of American women, a normalized heat map similar to the ones you saw above, but with an added geographical component.
No matter what he's telling himself on his setting page, a 30 year-old man spends as much time messaging 18 and 19 year-olds as he does women his own age.
On the other hand, women only a few years older are largely neglected.
Look at how men have set their age preferences on Ok Cupid: As you can see, a man, as he gets older, searches for relatively younger and younger women.
Meanwhile his upper acceptable limit hovers only a token amount above his own age.
Ultimately, I'll argue that they would be well-served to expand their search upwards, to women in their thirties and forties.
Because it has been a successful way to introduce previous posts, I wanted to put real faces on this demographic before I delve into a bunch of numbers.
So you can see how differently women think about dating and age, here are the corresponding charts for them: Except in their early to mid-twenties, when they apparently want nothing to do with younger guys (i.e. ), women show an admirable openness to both reasonably younger and reasonably older men.
Notice also how a woman's actual messaging activity, shown in the heat map below, is roughly centered on her own age (as illustrated by the dotted "age parity" line).
At the graph's outer edge, at age 48, men are nearly twice as sought-after as women.
Here's the data: A woman's desirability peaks at 21, which, ironically enough is the age that men just begin their "prime," i.e. Following that dotted line out, you can see that a woman of 31 is already "past her prime," while a man doesn't become so until 36.
At 29, a woman becomes even more open to older men and, in addition, stops writing the youngest ones.