I realize that I’ve gone on a bit of a tangent from your original question, Dwayne, but this is important.If your email dialogue is flagging, it’s not simply because she’s not interested in you – it’s because you haven’t captured her imagination.I'm, frankly speaking, an amazing cook, and I want to know what's she's bringing to the table (also helps me weed out the vegetarians, without having to ask; I'm fine with vegetarians, but it's like a religion, I prefer to know early). If she says "the water" she may be into surfing or kayaking or a similar sexy sport.
A great email will never make someone who doesn’t want to date you consider you, but it WILL tip the balance when someone is choosing between a dozen otherwise similar candidates.
Who would a woman rather go out with – the boring lunkhead who asks for her number before he’s had a chance to charm her, or the witty guy whose every email she anticipates with delight? So do yourself a favor, Dwayne: stop beating up on yourself because she doesn’t sound interested.
The problem is that we don’t; we expect the other person to do the heavy lifting – to make the plans, to ask the silly questions, to raise the playing field.
We all want someone to set the tone and follow along, instead of realizing that we’re always setting the tone ourselves.
6) You sound creepy if you don’t warm it up with a signature. You may be shocked how those same people become a lot more interested and interesting when you give them more to work with.
This probably sounds incredibly nitpicky, but it’s not. I’ve got two techniques for writing first emails that I describe in Finding the One Online.
Be more interesting, and you’ll never have to wonder if there was anything else that you could do on your own behalf.
Seriously, my friend, this is a very do-able technique and I’ve helped hundreds of guys (and thousands of women) master online communication.
I asked this client what made this email exchange different from the other exchanges. I mean, from the majority of your emails, you sound really boring, too.