That line is crossed not when you act on your feelings, but when you simply feel them.
Watch out, though: "Those feelings of lust create dishonesty — you start criticizing your friend’s boyfriend or girlfriend, sometimes without even realizing, because you want to be that person, and you’re jealous of that relationship," Masini says.
"You will start making up excuses to go see that special friend, you start remembering tiny details of when you are together, and when you look at each other there is more of a deep soul connection that just a passing glance," Alex says.
And the rest is history, if his marriage is any indication.
Again, coming clean is vital — unless you know there's no chance of romance, in which case backing off is wise.
ou want to spend as much time with them, of course," she says. Echoing other experts, Grant points to "physical attraction" and "jealousy." When you find yourself getting territorial, give some serious thought to your feelings for this person.
This limbo space can be really confusing, because friends are already really chummy and loving and can be touchy-feely and amazing listeners and supportive AF — in other words, the sorts of characteristics that people in a romantic relationship usually exhibit.
No matter what the circumstances or the situation, whether you're the one with the secret crush, you suspect your friend likes you, or it's a mix of the two, here are some reliable flags to tell if your friendship is becoming something more. If you're sitting around zoning out about your friend in class or at work, you have feelings for them.
"For instance, if he tells you that she seems to be too busy to see him, you start filling his head with a million reasons why she just might not be that into him.
At this point, you need to come forward and admit your true feelings for this person, even if it means losing the friendship, or you need to back off from this person altogether," Sansone-Braff says.
"They go out of their way for you more than necessary and there's a thoughtfulness that almost feels surprising," she says.