As they become adults, we approach them just as we do other believers, admonishing, exhorting, bearing their burdens, forgiving, etc., all aspects of the dating, courting, and marriage years.“Parents need to be involved,” That Mom says when speaking of dating, courtship, and marriage.
What exactly does it mean for parents to be “involved”?
In fact, courtship, to us, was how our grandparents and sometimes even our parents would refer to meeting, getting to know, and preparing to marry each other.
In fact, they didn’t often refer to relationships with the opposite sex outside of the goal of being married one day.
My siblings were not allowed to be in the ceremony.
What relationship we have today was built over the rubble of shattered dreams. When Sean and I first started “courting,” we spoke to his parents as well as mine.
Then, instead of trying to extricate her daughter, Linda focused on for her daughter.
Linda told me that she wanted to make sure that when her daughter eventually realized that she needed to get out she would know she could come to her mother for help.But then I concluded, after some intensive research into the issue, that God had created through evolution rather than in six days.My father took this as a sign that Sean was leading me astray, and he ordered us to break up. My father was a stalwart young earth creationist, and I had just realized that he was fallible.So Sean and I approached my father about beginning a “courtship,” given that that was what I had been raised to expect.My father spoke with Sean and then gave his permission to begin a courtship.And here I sit, happily married to Sean for over half a decade. But even as I made good relationship choices on my own and have a solid relationship with a wonderful man, my relationship with my parents was utterly and completely destroyed.