It’s a question that comes up occasionally within a singles ministry.
If you are seriously dating someone, how long should it be before you pop the question?
I was attending a close friend’s wedding at the Harvard Club of New York, an elegant “Harvard on Harvard” marriage.
When the bride threw the bouquet, the cluster of single women immediately jumped away from it and the unclaimed bouquet landed on the floor.
I thought I really knew who I was just after college..it has taken me years to become more comfortable in my own skin.
I am SO glad I did not marry the person I thought I would marry when I was 21..would be divorced by now. You are a full grown-up and know yourself better than you did in your 20s.
How much time does it take to determine if he or she is “the one”? I know of people who have gotten married very quickly (like in a matter of days) and are still married decades later—and people who did the same thing and were divorced just as quickly.
Or, a couple may be “in a relationship” for a decade, finally get married, and then split up in the first year.
Your education is finished, and your career is far enough along to have established professional credibility and worth, such that employers will be more flexible when it comes to children/family.
• I don't think there's any particular age—it's more a matter of maturity.
Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample () indicated that they spent an average of 3.6 years dating their husbands before committing to marriage.
This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.
So there’s no set timeframe for how long you should date; it depends on the situation.